An Important Note to Our Community Before We Start June

Dear Friends,

Of all the things I am professionally and personally proud of, I am most proud of the diversity in this community. Within our readership are women of every age, religion, ethnicity, and race from almost every corner of the globe.

Nowhere is that more evident than in our Private Facebook Group, where every day I see how good women are to each other. It’s both humbling and reassuring to see, and something I take into consideration in every post I write.

I often wonder how that happened.

How did this little website, from the suburbs of Philadelphia, reach a global audience?

I think it’s because the conversations and content I share here are relatable. Despite any of our differences, we are bonded by a common thread, a universal desire found throughout womanhood to care for and feel good about ourselves.

While my content can feel frivolous, especially in times of despair, the depth and connection in this community run deep. Throughout the years, we have stood by each other: supporting, praising, and sending messages filled with kindness.

For me, these last few challenging weeks have been made better because of all of you.

Over Memorial Day weekend, I decided to take a few days away from the blog and social media to map out our summer strategy. My original plan leading into 2020 was to have an editorial team in place to help ease some of my workloads.

Unfortunately, all that is on pause until we see how quickly we can get back to “normal.”

As the week started, I was feeling a little overwhelmed, but generally optimistic. Restrictions were getting lifted; homeschooling was over; the pools are reopening!

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Things were looking like they were taking a turn for the better.

And then the news of George Floyd’s murder came, and things kept getting worse, and worse, and worse.

 

 

By Friday, I was at a complete loss for words.

My deadline for writing this “Welcome June” letter had passed.

Do I say something?

Stay out of it?

Keep it light?

The worst thing I can be right now is another blogger, navel-gazing about race relations in America.

I am neither sufficiently educated on the topic or eloquent enough with words to do it any justice whatsoever. I also do not have the leverage or social platform power to make any significant impact.

And I promised you I would keep this a positive place, but if I genuinely want this to be a space and brand for all women, I need to use today’s post to say something. 

Many of you know I am the proud daughter of a now-retired police officer. I grew up in a working-class neighborhood where it seemed like everyone’s dad was either a cop or a firefighter. 

So much of who I am comes from my dad. My deep sense of right and wrong and the makeup of my moral compass are a direct result of who he is and how he raised me. He’s always been my north star for how to live with integrity, which he took with him to work every day.

He’s also why I am both heartbroken and infuriated by the video of George Floyd’s death.

It’s yet another example, in a long line of examples, that showcases an abuse of power and disregard for a person’s life based on his skin color. 

Racism, in any shape or form, is unacceptable. 

Over the years, I have been reading, listening, and trying to understand what privilege means and how I can be an ally. It’s a lot to unpack, but I get it.

I believe I can make the most impact right now, by doing this work within my home, where my husband and I speak frankly and honestly about race and racism with our kids.

As a family, we want to part of the solution, not the problem. We’re still educating ourselves, but we’re on the journey and learning together.

I understand that this not about being colorblind but rather to see and respect each of us for who we are.

It’s not enough not to be racist; we have to be actively anti-racist and stand up when we see injustice.

Since the inception of this site, inclusion has always been my priority. I started with size-inclusion, and as our business grows, other forms of inclusion and representation will follow to the best of my ability and resources. 

My goal for TWDL is and always will be to create a space for all women to feel seen and celebrated.

These are terrible times.

We are all exhausted, some of us much more than others. I’ve never considered myself a woman of faith, yet I’ve prayed more in 2020 than at any other time in my life  

I’ll be back tomorrow with The Ten List, and to dive into a lot of fun and helpful content to get us ready for the summer months. 

Right now I’m praying for everyone: for all citizens to be and feel safe in our country, for our streets to return to peace, for the men and women protecting those streets and businesses, and for understanding and empathy to prevail, so we can see and celebrate our shared humanity. 

xo,

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31 thoughts on “An Important Note to Our Community Before We Start June”

  1. Meg, Kudos for your post. Systematic racism can’t change if we don’t acknowledge that it exists. I hope all of us who enjoy TWDL will be inspired to reflect and act.

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  2. Thank you for speaking up. I am an African American subscriber who likes to look good in stylish classic yet up to date clothing. I look for IG and Blogs that match my interests. There are none that meet the mark 100% of the time, but you have some good suggestions. I believe our world is moving forward to change through the pandemic and the recent horrible violence against POC that has everyone’s attention. So now that we have everyone’s attention let’s move the needle in history. Let’s never “go back to normal “, let’s move forward with regard and appreciation for every human that God created and accept that ALL deserve equal rights. Our differences should not elicit hate and disdain for each other instead we should want to learn and always help someone who needs it and asks for it.

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  3. Thank you, Meg. Your post was beautiful and a real comfort to me today. Keep doing what you are doing; it has tremendous value.

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  4. Thank u for bringing this up. As the mother of 2 African-American sons and 1 daughter, I don’t expect everyone to understand the fear and stress I feel every day for their safety as they navigate in public. How many slights do they face every day as they walk to work, shop, jog, etc and when will these slights begin to take a toll on their mental and physical health? I’ve been thinking a lot this past week about the quote “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” So as the world watched an act of unspeakable evil one week ago, we need to hear from everyone that believes we must do better! Thank you for being one of those voices!

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  5. That was a well, and yes, even uplifting post. Here in Canada we also have racism…as you know , we are a very diverse population, but as a nation we work at trying to eliminate as much as possible, and have our governments support. Our police officers receive updated training in human relations, be it race or mentally challenged citizens the have to deal with on a daily basis. I fervently hope that as a society we will continue to grow. Our thought and prayers are with you, our neighbours.
    Ingrid

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  6. Meg,

    I love what you’re doing. As always, doing it with grace.

    I have a friend who is white like myself, but she’s raising 3 kids she’s adopted from 3 continents (Africa, South America, and Asia). She offered a list of books to educate ourselves about systemic racism. I want to offer it to you because you’ve been doing a great monthly book club. She said “If you haven’t read Why are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? start with that.” But the list is good and I want to offer it in case you have suggestions from others.

    Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? Beverly Daniel Tatum
    Between the World and Me, Ta-Nehisi Coates
    I’m Still Here Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness, Austin Channing Brown
    Just Mercy, Bryan Stevenson
    The New Jim Crow, Michelle Alexander
    White Fragility: Why It’s so Hard for White People To Talk about Racism, Robin Diangelo

    I recognize because of your diverse readership you don’t want to read a book meant for a single audience (white people learning about racism). I’m grateful she shared the list and wanted to pass it along. If we do nothing else, we need to teach ourselves and be talking about this.

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  7. Thank you for your thoughts. This was a horrible act. I too do not feel educated enough and have not suffered racism to be able to speak on the topic in depth. But, we have to stop labeling people. The news media has pushed the fact that it was a white police officer and a black person in custody. Why couldn’t it just be a police officer and a person in custody? I do not see color, I see people! For a country that wants equality on so many levels, why does the media and society label everyone? Faith in God is the only thing that will help our country. We have all been created in the image of God as stated in the Holy Scriptures, the Bible. If people truly believed that, we would respect and honor all of God’s creation.

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  8. Thank you so much for taking the time on your platform to speak up. I am 57 and always considered myself accepting of all. I now realize I need to educate myself, speak up and support in any way I can the change this country is crying out for. If I am not part of the solution…

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  9. Thank you Meredith for sharing the list. I struggle with the topic of racism; there’s much I don’t understand. Growing up in the deep south, I was not allowed to have friends of color. I defied my parents and have always had a diverse collection of friends. I don’t pretend to understand the struggles of POC. I truly believed I was doing enough…teaching my children to see the good in everyone and to not judge others by the color of their skin. BUT I can do better and I want to do better for my children, my friends and my community.

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  10. I appreciate having this group of admirable women who share their thoughts and experiences. It’s become so much more than a fashion platform.

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  11. Thank you.
    We all need to speak up.
    After the holocaust, the chant was “never again“
    We are watching it unfold

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  12. Thank you Megan for your real and heartfelt words! You are an amazing woman who uplifts others. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️

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  13. I suspect one of the reasons that your site remains positive, and has such a clear focus, is that you have consistently and frequently reminded people of its vision: fashion can make people feel like their best selves. I have seen you politely remind others about keeping it polite and/or non-political, and I am sure some challenging situations behind the scenes have also occurred. Your site (and your role as its creator) improves by listening to your audience, and ironically, that may be what is happening in our country right now. Please keep reminding us of why we visit your site… and hopefully there will be some better news nationally/locally soon.

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  14. Thank you Megan. Your fresh prospective is appreciated and welcomed. I’m white and 65. I grew up with a few other races in a catholic school. It was late 60’s and early 70’s and our requirements were to be polite to one another. Although that keeps everything safe it really doesn’t ever tell anyone how you really feel. I don’t enjoy the current environment but I believe it is healthy to share our feelings in peaceful manners. Thanks you again Megan for sharing in a great , positive way. The elephant in the room is difficult to ignore.

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  15. Hi Kristal,

    Thank you for this post. I am in total agreement with you. Unfortunately, I find that Facebook and Instagram (owned by Facebook) are not doing their part to avoid stoking the flames of liars and hate language. I am not using them anymore and I know that would make a big systems change for you, but could you look into using a blog and picture app different from them?

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    • I’m not understanding this comment. I don’t use Facebook or Instagram other than to share content to those audiences. This blog is run on WordPress, and is completely independent of any social media platform. If you don’t want to use Facebook or Instagram, you can still access this site.
      Also, my name is Megan.

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  16. Dear Megan, It was so good to see that you are still posting. Stay strong. The world needs your good sense and humanity. Best regards, Helen (Australia)

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