The List: September 30th, 2019

I knew as The Well Dressed Life gained popularity that I would have to deal with trolls and generally miserable human beings. That comes with the territory; the underbelly of the internet is darker than I ever imagined. But I am astonished by how many women take time out of their day to tell me to “stay in my lane.”

It’s even more astonishing when you consider I talk about pretty innocuous topics.

I was 27 years old when I started my first business, a personal styling company called Kristel Closets. For years I grew a team and eventually expanded into three states. But after a decade, the landscape of the business was changing, and I was bored and tired.

Needing a new challenge, I took this blog, which was created as a marketing tool for Kristel Closets, and decided to focus on it full time. It seemed like the perfect solution to help stimulate my brain and re-energize my passions.

My idea, which I remain committed to, was to create an online space for grown-up women. I felt like once I turned 35, had a few kids, and advanced in my career that I suddenly stopped relating to most women-focused sites.

I thought, why not take the knowledge I gained from working with clients and combine it with my genuine passion for living a happy, healthy, positive life? It just made sense.

The List September 30, 2019

I have a pretty thick skin and laser focus, so unkind emails don’t get me down. I usually just feel bad for the person writing them. But the last one I received made me stop and wonder, how many women aren’t pursuing their goals and or living their dreams because they’ve been told to “stay in their lane”? How many are holding back for fear of a few insignificant, meaningless opinions?

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We’re not made to start in one place and stay there forever. Instead, if we’re lucky and given the opportunity, we should (and I would argue we have a responsibility) to try everything, make big moves and be bold. 

I believe, in an ideal world, women would embrace of self-care. We would encourage each other to live out our dreams, give praise when we’re being brave and honor our choices, no matter how different they may be from our own. And we would want every woman to be happy, feel confident and beautiful as she goes about her life.

That’s my goal here. 

To be clear: I’m not looking for head pats. The negativity rarely bothers me, sometimes it’s so crazy it’s actually funny.

What does bother me, what makes me sad, is that I’m sure for every one of me, there are hundreds of women intimidated by the idea of putting themselves out there. Imagine how much better our world would be if women encouraged each other to share their talents, and follow their dreams.  I’m here to tell you, once you do it, once you ignore the naysayers and small minded among you, your life will be so much richer. So, whatever is sitting on your heart, go for it at full force.  You and our world will be better for it. 

And now some things I’m into this week: 

Combat Self Doubt: With these tips to help get back to work after taking some time off. 

Beauty Splurge: Put this on after the shower, when your skin is still wet, and you’ll lock in moisture all day long.

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Tidy Cords: Have a family with a ton of electronics? This charging station is a game changer

Stop Everything: Check out these shoes that go from a traditional loafer to a backless mule and they’re under $100.  Done. 

Need a New Robe: I love the length, fabric and price of this one from N by Natori. Would also make a great holiday gift. 

Weeknight Meal: This sausage, tortellini and spinach soup is so easy to make a big hit with all the picky eaters in my house. 

 

The List: September 30th, 2019

29 thoughts on “The List: September 30th, 2019”

  1. I am so sorry you are subjected to trolls and envious people who have to attack others to feel good about themselves.
    I love your blog and don’t every miss a day. You are so real and are you without pretense. You inspire others and to discover and be their authentic self and help us with creating our own style. You have three young children and I am amazed that you still are able to give not only to your family but thousands of others who welcome your suggestions.
    Please don’t ever “stay in your lane”. We are not meant to do that as you so aptly realize.

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  2. I found your website by accident and I can’t tell you what a difference you have made in my life. I love your stylish and sensible advice that I find so helpful in dressing my middleaged self. Thanks for all that you do!!

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  3. Megan, I think you are such a classy person for reading that negative email and responding with compassion and inquiry (following a few choice words perhaps. 🙂 ) . Well done!
    -Adrienne

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  4. Please don’t let the negatives get to you. I am 74 and have found that that your blogs have enabled me to find my fashion self. ❤️

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  5. Thanks for keeping the message positive even in the face of the trolls. I once asked for landscaping advice on a social media site and I totally got bashed. What the heck? No one asks for that. Your site is great and I’ve really enjoyed some of the books you’ve recommended. Keep it going!

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  6. I, for one, and thrilled that I found your blog. You are positive and uplifting; you encourage self-care (which is so very important); you promote wellness–inner and outer; you content is not only relevant but beautifully presented. It really is a shame that someone is so unhappy that they feel the need to lash out. Good people can flounder when they do not take the time for self-care. I truly believe it is the most important thing we can do, not just for ourselves but for everyone around us. If you feel poorly, look poorly, and eat poorly, you will act poorly. Frankly, if that woman would take some of your advice, she might find herself feeling better. 🙂 Have a wonderful week!

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  7. I think there are sad, desperate people who focus on trolling negativity because they have so very little else in their lives, and it is so easy to do online. Please try not to let those people discourage you! There are SO many others who appreciate what you do.

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  8. We should always be willing to “step out of our lane.” As a 68-year-old retiree, my life is not over. I am constantly learning daily, and I encourage all women to do the same. Sometimes, people need to remember the old saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” We are all doing the best we know how at any given moment.

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  9. The internet lets people be nasty anonymously. If they saw you in person, butter wouldn’t melt in their mouths. (I live in South and run into this all the time.) Just ignore them. Your product is interesting for the rest of us (nice) people!

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  10. I love and appreciate the info in your blog, from self-care to fashion and everything in between. I’m in my early 50’s and was not finding fashion advice for women my age. You filled that void and I appreciate it. THANK YOU 🙂 and keep giving us your valuable information and experience.

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  11. I always find this type of negativity so bizarre! I’m 65 year old professional, with three grown up children and one grandchild. I find your blog delightful and helpful on so many levels and I think that you are already ‘all over the road’ which is where most women are today! Keep up the great work!

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  12. Thank you for stepping up and empowering women with your blog post. Know that there are women reading the blog that enjoy your suggestions and life lessons.

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  13. I appreciate your tips and fashion knowledge. Ignore the haters, I do. Change lanes often, enjoy life because it is too short and most importantly be kind. Believe me, one day we all reach an age when time and the choices we make become much more precious.

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  14. Create any lane you want! I also enjoy every blog post you write and you are my go to when looking for fashion ideas. I am in my mid 50’s and value your opinion as a professional women in public accounting who struggles with finding age appropriate but not dowdy clothes. Thank you for being you!!

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  15. I have always loved and admired Martha Stewart. She is a true trail blazer. Nevertheless, I was disappointed when many years ago, I read an interview where, when asked her opinion about Gwyneth Paltrow and goop, Martha said
    Gwyneth should stick to acting. I still can’t understand how someone so accomplished, could be unkind instead of generous, Gwyneth’s reaction to Martha’s criticism was classic.

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  16. Bury the trolls with success! Don’t read the poison pen letters. Go Get ’em gal! At 78 I still want to look ALIVE and engaged in the world.

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  17. LOVE LOVE LOVE this post today Krystal! 100% with you on this!! Thank you for having thick skin and being a good example!

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  18. Good morning Megan. I really enjoy reading your blog and love your suggestions. It’s a shame that some woman feel compelled to send you negative comments such as “stay in your lane” when simply not following you would be a healthier alternative. You’re right -their is such a dark underbelly to the web. Sad to know there are so many unhappy and unfulfilled people in the world and that they have to tear others down to feel good about themselves. Keep doing what you’re doing. I admire you.

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  19. Hi Megan,
    Thank you for your positivity, all the good advice and style tips you provide, and resilience to the negative you have encountered. You are right; women must be able to venture out into whatever new territory they feel compelled to explore. Otherwise, what did our mothers, sisters, aunts, neighbors and grandmothers fight for?
    I am a 61 year old nurse practitioner, wife, mother, mother-in-law, daughter, sister, and grandma of 7 sweet grandkids. I have recently made a job change to allow me to take better care of myself. It is my goal to maintain my health as I age, and also continue to fight for what I feel is important in the world.
    I also want to appropriately present myself as a professional, aware of my age and body type. Thank you for the fashion tips and recommendations that you provide weekly. While I don’t take you up on your dress recommendations (think rolling stool in my clinic rooms), I appreciate your blog, and love your classic tastes and ideas for where the good values are.
    Go, Megan!!

    Mary Beck Metzger
    Lake Mills, Wisconsin

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  20. Very well said! Thank you for venturing outside your “lane”, aka “your comfort zone”! Growth will only happen outside your comfort zone; challenges must be incurred and endured! I believe there is a very befitting quote out there that says “Women who behave rarely make history”. thanks for “misbehavin’!!

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