The List: October 21st, 2019

Last week, I took a few days “off” to get my life in order. Do you ever feel like you just need a minute to reset? Laundry was piling up; the girls didn’t have pants that fit, I forgot to pay bills. It wasn’t pretty.

For the last few months, I’ve felt like something was off, specifically with work. I feel like I am always behind schedule (because I am) and am utterly overwhelmed at every turn. It became obvious in these last few days away from posting that the current set up of The Well Dressed Life is critically flawed. Not from a content standpoint, but the backend of the business. 

For three years now, I have done everything myself. From content and site development, updating SEO, managing social media, sourcing new ways to monetize, and managing the accounting,  I’m currently doing the work of at least six people and it is taking a toll across all parts of my life. 

If the site crashes (it has several times this year),everything stops until I figure out what is wrong and fix it. When Google changes its algorithm, I need to relearn how to make sure my content is searchable.

I also have to create unique content for the blog, Facebook, AND Instagram while circulating our posts on Pinterest, which is our biggest driver of views. That in and of itself is a full-time job.

As one person, with three kids and only 24 hours in a day, I’ve reached the point of it being impossible.  You can only be good at so many things, and right now I don’t feel like I’m doing anything well. I’m also realizing the more time I focus on the technical aspects of the business, the harder it is for me to be creative.

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Bottom line: the current way I’m running things is impeding my ability to grow any further.

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So, for the rest of the year, everything will look pretty much the same on the surface. Just know that behind the scenes, I am starting to build out a team to give me back the time I need to focus on content creation and growth and to establish  a solid foundation of a business that I can sustain for years to come. 

I’m sure there will be some hiccups along the way, so please stay patient as I figure out the best path forward. 

What would be so helpful is if you would continue to ask your specific questions in the comments. I read every single one and use them to build out our posts. For example, our recent posts about Age Appropriate Dress and Flats You Can Wear Instead of Heels were inspired by your questions and well received.

And now for the rest of The List: 

2. Currently Reading: Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (And More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky. 

3. Cozy Halloween: This chunky knit sweater is perfect for taking the kids trick-or-treating on a chilly fall night. 

4. As-Seen-On-Social: After seeing a ton of Wander Beauty videos on Facebook and Instagram, I had to give some of their products a try. Their press foundation is a top seller, but I wasn’t a fan. For aging skin like mine, it’s too heavy and set into my fine lines and wrinkles. I prefer lighter coverage that lets my skin breath. However, I LOVED their mascara and under-eye patches. I’m working on a video review of my favorite beauty products so stay tuned!

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5. Legging Upgrade: On Friday night we celebrated a good friends 40th birthday. I wore this H&M sweater and these faux leather leggings with a pair of pumps. It reminded me how versatile those leggings can be this time of year. Spanx makes the best pair that fits well and holds you in, available in missy and plus sizes

Have a great week!! 

 

 

The List: October 21st, 2019

11 thoughts on “The List: October 21st, 2019”

  1. Can you talk about styling yourself for family photos? Kids and husbands are usually pretty easy but I have no idea where to start for myself, especially with the post-baby weight I gained. 🙁

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  2. Wow! I think you read my mind! I have been feeling this exact way. I own my own business as well. I am an artist and sell my work online via my website and online store. I also have an online art gallery where I promote fellow artists. I blog and need to create content for both websites on a weekly basis, aside from promoting everything on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and I do it all on my own!!

    I’m also a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister and a volunteer. It never ends!

    Thanks for sharing and letting me know I am not alone!

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  3. Ease on up, Megan. Your work is too important. Have you considered using the talents of student interns? Yours would be such a plum assignment.

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  4. I love your transparency! Thank you for being honest about your challenges.

    Can you help me understand tall boots this season? I’m seeing a confusing mix of information: don’t wear with skinny jeans, do wear with straight jeans (!), etc. Can I wear them with leggings? I’ve seen them with midi length skirts, but can I also wear them with knee length? I’m not trendy, but I don’t want to look completely out of touch.

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  5. I’d like suggestions for shoes with support over the instep that can be worn with skirts. I have a pair of Paul Green lace ups with pointy toes that I like. I do not want clunky, huge shoes or boots, even short boots. I need support over the instep that lace-ups provide

    Thanks a million and take it easy on yourself!!!

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  6. At the risk of adding to the craziness,,,, how often do you accept people on the private facebook page? I’m dying to find out more about the October capsule wardrobe.

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  7. You really get me. I appreciate your positive outlook and advice, you are such a great teacher! i actually just spent the weekend being a total home-body dusting off mantels, going through piles and piles of old paper and mags, pulling annual flowers and decorating for Halloween. It felt so great to get to the bottom of the dust! I bragged about cleaning behind the washing machine when I was back in the office this morning. I felt so much more positive and productive. Be gentle with yourself you are doing the best you can! You’ve come so far, the best is yet to come! Be well.

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  8. Grace over guilt, Meg. What a wonderful position to be in: your business is growing and you need to invest to make it sustainable. Of course we will follow that with interest: its bound to be an iterative journey. Your gut instinct is right – you can’t do it all well, so something needs to change. Take your time to work it through knowing your content is excellent and you have a loyal fanbase who will support you.

    I love your advice and your fashion choices. I am one of those women who can spend hours and hours researching and styling work wear (my joy!), but struggle to get the casual edit right. With 2 sons, I end up in jeans and woolly jumpers all the time (British winter) and know I could do better. Every post you do for a slightly more stylish casual look is golden for me, so bring those on please.

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  9. Thank you so much for all that you do! Thanks to your posts, I feel like I’m starting to master the casual yet pulled together look I’ve been searching for as a work-from-home writer, but what I struggle with are the weekends. Specifically, the “we’re out all day at (insert children’s sport of choice – in my case, basketball and baseball) games” look. I want to be comfortable, casual, yet look pulled together and not like I just grabbed whatever jeans and t-shirt seemed clean enough, but I also don’t want to feel overdressed. Stylish athleisure? That’s never been my style, so I don’t even know where to begin.

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  10. Another post I can relate very much with… Your month of Oct is my month of Nov!
    Looking forward to see the results of what you working hard on 🙂

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