The Ten List

Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we’re doing the right thing and that we’re on the right path, even when times are challenging. I always look for signs, big or small, to give me the encouragement I need when life doesn’t move either in the direction I want or at the, um, pace I’ve decided is best. (Why does everything take so long??)

Whatever journey you are on right now, don’t get discouraged, don’t talk yourself out of it, don’t find reason to give up.  If you are doing something you love, you are already winning. The world needs more women who are following their passions, no matter what they might be.

2. Sneaker Upgrade. I wear my gym sneakers into the ground.  Not on purpose, I just don’t think about it, until I find myself slipping and sliding around. Recently, I bought these ASICS running shoes.  (In indigo blue/ opal green.) I bought them because I thought they were pretty, but when I brought them home, Bri commented that they are great sneakers, and he’s right.  They are incredibly comfortable, have a nice bounce to them, and provide lots of support.

3. Tweed on Sale. Stocking up on interesting blazers is an easy way to make sure you always have something to wear to work. This black and ivory option from DKNY for Macy’s is under $100 and will work with any black bottom currently hanging in your closet.

4.  Mistakes Women Make in Business. I thought this article fell a bit flat. Typically, women are responsible for many if not all of the domestic duties at home too, so blanketed advice like, “find a mentor” and “network more” isn’t very helpful. I know I need to do both, but there is only so much time in the day. I wish regular (i.e. non celebrity) professional women would share more of how they actually pull life off, the challenges they have and how they over come them.  I wonder what you think?

5. Tired Eyes. I’m almost 7 months pregnant and officially not sleeping at night.  I’m exhausted, and look it.  Luckily, I spend most of my work day by myself at my desk, but on the occasion that I have to see another human in a professional setting, I’ve been using these under eye lift masks by Juice Beauty.  They give you a little extra help by decreasing the puffiness and brightening your skin, at least for a couple of hours.

6. Maybe food will help?  Speaking of being tired and having a total lack of energy, I am watching everything I eat to give me a fighting chance of staying upright during the day.  These foods are proven to help sustain your blood sugar. and give you a boost.  And the good news is many of these can be thrown in a blender for a smoothie making it easy to get as many in as possible.

7. Roll it Out.  Whether you’re on your feat all day, or hit the gym religiously, learning how to use a foam roller will change your life. I use mine a few days a week, especially on my lower back and hamstrings. This article has some easy, straightforward moves you can do at home.

8. Makeup Bag Geek. I get real excited about new makeup bags. Really any kind of  bag you can put things in thrill me. The other day I was running through Target to pick up a few odds and ends and spotted this out of the corner of my eye.  It looks simple enough, but it is fantastic for travel.  There is plenty of room to keep all of your makeup, skincare, and brushes clean and tidy and a bonus bag to use to get through security.  I’m about to start a crazy few weeks of travel before the baby is born and am stocking this up so it can live in my carry, then I’ll restock for my time in the hospital.

9. Tasty Recipe Videos.  I am mildly obsessed with Tasty How To recipe videos.  They first popped up in my Facebook feed (in the middle of the night, while not sleeping) and I find them incredibly informative, helpful and oddly soothing.  There’s something about the narrators voice that puts me at ease. This chocolate cake recipe looks incredible. I love to cook and bake, so it is first up once my new kitchen is done. Be sure to check out all three seasons, the tips include everything from how to cook a perfect steak to how to prep your cast iron pans.

10. The Best $20 I’ve Spent Recently. I wanted to swap out my long terry cloth robe with something shorter and lighter. I ended up ordering this white waffle robe on Amazon two weeks ago and I’m so pleased with it! It’s a nice weight, perfect length (and I’m tall) and what I like the most is the sleeve length.  They don’t get in the way while you’re getting ready, or doing dishes, etc.  For $20 you can’t beat it.

Over the last few years, there’s been this revolt against being busy.

“Don’t be busy,” they say, “be productive!” 

or

“Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities.“

Why is being busy getting such a bum rap? I don’t know of a single modern woman who isn’t busy, overwhelmingly busy, every single day.

 

The minutia of life isn’t necessarily productive, and I don’t want it to be a priority, but if it’s not taken care of nothing else can get done. So unless I’m going to hire a driver for my kids and a full-time housekeeper and personal assistant, sometimes I’m just going to be busy and unproductive, and it doesn’t need to be a reflection of my priorities.

It feels like more silly societal pressure. It’s not enough that the responsibility of running a home, managing a family and providing for said family rests on our shoulders. We also have to be effortlessly organized with our priorities perfectly aligned; we need to be productive all the time. Because now, telling someone “I’m too busy” is seen as self-important and lacking interest.

Yet, we’re encouraged to start saying “no” to things. Hmm …

Modern life is busy, and women are often the ones to take on that work so others can be productive. What complicates things more is when our commitments are in and outside the home. We’re faced with the challenge of having to simultaneously manage the daily responsibilities, and move our career or business forward.

Managing the busy isn’t always as easy as sorting our priorities into some hierarchy. Most of us are doing the best we can with whatever is thrown at us that day and hope we get a few things accomplished.

“Busy” will look different as we move through each phase of life. But we don’t need any more pressure, especially from each other. So, ladies, can we collectively cut each other some slack? Let’s just admit we’re all too busy, and that’s okay? Let’s say “no” unapologetically, go ahead and say it’s because you’re too busy, and let’s give the women in our lives the space to do so too, and help each other out when we can.

2. Launching a Start Up Midlife. Think you’re too old to start a business later in life? According to this article, the only impact your age will have is make you more successful. You’ll still have lots of challenges, but your diverse network, work experience, increased confidence and change in parenting dynamic (i.e. having adult children compared to toddlers) makes you prime to hustle your way to success.

3. Need a gorgeous black dress for work? If I didn’t have a bump this stunning Theory dress would be one of my first purchases for fall. You can wear it to the office and dress it up easily for an evening event. 

4. Is it your instinct or your anxiety? I have strong intuition and strong anxiety which leaves me in a state of utter confusion at times. I’ve been trying to teach myself to decipher between the two. I’m starting to learn the subtle differences, by looking back on moments I had a gut feeling that turned out to be correct compared to moments my anxiety acted up yet nothing bad happened. This is a quick and helpful article if you find yourself in a similar state of mind.

5. Stock up now. We feature a version of these ankle boots every year and every year they become limited in sizes by the end of September. Grab them now if you need a new pair and check back on Friday to see how to wear them this fall.

6. DVF for the win. Everyone knows my love of DFV. I FLIPPED when I saw this midi length shirt dress. So often, her dresses are super short and don’t work when you’re tall like me, but this one hits below the knee. I would hem it to the very top of my knee and pair it with classic black suede pumps.

7. Worth watching. I always have podcasts and videos on in my office as I work, mostly as background noise. But when this conversation between Brene Brown and Lewis Howes came on I stopped everything. As someone who never really feels like I fit in, I was particularly struck by how Brene articulates the difference between fitting in versus belonging. Often we have to compromise a little of who we are to feel like we fit in, but that doesn’t happen when you feel like you belong and that is really what we are all searching for.

8. A splurge worthy of splurging. If you are looking to make an investment in a classic daytime bag, this Michael Kors Collection satchel is divine. The body is woven, the straps are leather, and there’s no logo in sight.  And trust me, I looked for the less expensive version, and so far – nothing.

9. 21 day Self Care Challenge. I was scrolling on Pinterest when I came across this article promoting 21 days of self-care. What a great idea to try to incorporate as many of these tips as possible as we head into the busiest time of year. Maybe I’ll come up with a list of my own to share. What would you add?

10. Mourning the Maverick. I don’t ever talk about politics on here for obvious reasons, but I’m definitely a political junkie.  As an avid reader, my library includes any and every autobiography by modern political figures of the last 30 years, regardless of party. I love learning about their background and struggles, their childhood, and hearing their point of view on topics and issues, especially those I may not agree with or fully understand.  I recently finished John McCains last book, The Restless Wave, and was left grateful for his lifetime of service. In light of his passing this weekend I hope his legacy helps our country return to civility, respect and healthy, spirited debate without turning each other into the enemy.

Sometimes a shift in perspective is all you need. When I read this quote, I thought, Yes!

As I’ve worked on growing our business, and my career, there have been several opportunities I’ve recently gone out for that I didn’t get. Each time, I thought, this one is it, but, of course, it wasn’t. For a while, it felt like disappointment after disappointment. Being an entrepreneur is a constant rollercoaster of emotions. I don’t know if my persistence is because I’m mentally strong, or I’m just incredibly stubborn (my vote is stubborn), but I’m grateful either way that I’m able to wait things out. Everything always works out in the end, just rarely the way you think it will.

Imagine if we looked at all of our professional disappointments not as a referendum on our lack of skills, but the universe conspiring to bring us to an opportunity where we can use our gifts to the best of our abilities?

2. At Long Last. I recently ran into Ulta to pick up a few things for a trip, and impulsively put Estee Lauder’s Pure Color Envy in color “Controversial” in my cart.  It’s awesome! Most lipsticks that promise long-lasting color fall flat, they either don’t last, are dry, chip and bleed. Would I call this moisture-rich? No. But, long lasting? Yes! You’ll get least 6 hours. To keep it from drying my lips I add a lightweight balm on top and I’m good for most of the day.

3.Under $50 Cardigan. Long cardigans are a versatile addition to your wardrobe for fall. You can pair them with jeans and boots on the weekends, and layer over a blouse and tailored pants for work.  This cardigan at Nordstrom has an on-trend curved hem, in six gorgeous autumnal colors.  I’m picking up the “green botanical” as a fresh neutral to pair with denim and cream.

4. Wino-in-training.  My husband is the sommelier in the family. We’ve been fortunate to travel to Napa and Sonoma several times, visiting all kinds of acclaimed wineries. Bri loves learning about vintages, blends, soil composition and the right weather for the perfect harvest. Me? Well, I like wine. I’m just as happy to have a glass of Cupcake with a friend as I am to pull out what we call a “racked bottle” (one of the fancy bottles Bri’s collected over the years that we keep on our cellar rack.)Despite all my education, I still get overwhelmed at the wine store. I never know what to buy, especially if we’re bringing it somewhere, so I end up spending more than I want, not knowing if it’s any good. This article breaks down the retail price points of bottles of wine and gives guidelines on the threshold of price vs. quality.

5. Reading List: I think Sarah Jessica Parker is a delight. Every interview I’ve read or listened to I’ve found her to be thoughtful, inquisitive, humble and so very well read. (Her episode of Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee is my all time favorite available on Netflix.) Her deep love of literature led her to recently being named an editorial director for Hogart and published her first novel, A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza which I’m diving into this week. 

Bonus:  if you love SJP as I do, you’ll enjoy her recent conversation on the Goop Podcast on “Heartbreak, Business, Books and Reality TV.”  They cover everything from motherhood and marriage, to how being an actress has evolved from just acting to having to be a brand, to how her own career has evolved to cover so many different passions. The highlight was when she dropped this quote on growing up that I adore, “You should be wrong, and you should break some hearts, and your heart should be broken.”

6. Are your female friendships holding back your career?  I don’t know how I feel about this article on Fortune. What I do know is that I rarely work with friends.  Too many times, female friends or in my case, female acquaintances, have assumed I would work with or for them for free, something I would never dream of asking.  I do have a few friends who I’ve worked with for years, and we fully expect to pay each other’s invoices, but generally, it’s been more of a hassle than not. Sadly, men do a much better job leveraging their personal relationships into working ones, and vice versa.  I wonder what we can learn from them?

7. Most ridiculous item of the week. Please tell me, who is wearing these and where are they going?

8. New Heights. I feature a lot of lower heeled shoes on this site because they feel more practical, at least for me, but I know many of you love and can walk in something higher.  If you need to replace or add to your heel collection, these Sam Edelman 3.5 ” heels are classic, affordable and come in several gorgeous colors.  I especially love the navy and plum suede and for something unique, the floral mesh.

9. Meghan Mania. Sadly, not me, but instead, Meghan Markle. She’s bringing some fresh, American style over the pond and is currently killing it every time she steps out.  This fun website rounds up her style evolution, giving lots of inspiration and little tidbits on the new Duchess.

10. Mother Daughter Trips.  I had worked up in Boston earlier this week, so I added a few days on and flew my mom up for a long weekend.  Both of our lives are busy, so it’s nice to be able to carve out some uninterrupted time together, out of the house, away from distractions.  It made me realize how fortunate I am to not only still have my mom ( I have so many friends who don’t) that she’s in good health, and that we can have a strong female friendship as adults. When I came home yesterday, Bri said I should figure out a trip a year to take her on so of course, I started thinking of other quick domestic escapes. This article has some awesome ideas, many I never considered.

As always, use the comment section below to add your thoughts and observations. Have a wonderful week, friends!