It’s hard to believe we are already wrapping up October and heading into November. I spent most of the month feeling like I was trying to keep my head above water. My husband has been traveling for what feels like weeks at a time, and the kids are busier than ever. I was flying solo on most days, would end up exhausted at night, but didn’t feel like I accomplished anything significant. I’m grateful to have had such a flexible work schedule for so many years, but sometimes it’s too flexible.
Establishing boundaries is a challenge. I’ve been steadfast in keeping social outings, like lunches or drinks with friends, on the weekends. I won’t even have a coffee date on a weekday, but I still feel like I can’t keep up. I’m covering most of the domestic duties, I manage the kid’s schedule and school activities, and then I fit work into smaller chunks of time, often working late into the night. It’s not sustainable.
So when we planned a quick girls weekend in Vegas to celebrate my friend Lauren’s birthday, I looked forward to it for weeks. Not because we were going to party but because we were going to sleep, and sleep we did. We arrived late morning on Friday, grabbed a quick lunch and proceeded to take a four-hour nap; we eventually made it to a fun dinner and, you guessed it, headed back to go to sleep. We spent all day Saturday at the spa in Mandalay Bay, getting some treatments and dipping in and out of the steam room. I can’t even tell you how great it was to spend some uninterrupted hours with a few no drama girls, who are as smart as they are funny and can talk about anything from politics, marriage or the Real Housewives with the same level of ease and thoughtfullness. The best part was that no one talked about work, at all, except when we asked our one friend to tell us what she does for a living, because we had no idea what she did all day long.
The weekend reminded me of a few things. While we can’t fly off to a spa every weekend, we should try to plan a little break now and then. We have to practice some level of self-care so we can take care of everyone else. It’s also necessary to assess the level of drama in your life. Are the people in your life filling you up, or pulling you down? As I was sitting in the spa, sipping lemon water, chatting away with my friends I realized I was a full 24 hours into not being “on.” It was the first time in months I felt my body truly relax. I didn’t worry about if I was saying the right things, or keeping the conversation going, or providing the appropriate list of quarterly accomplishments. There was no talk of strategy, meaningless small talk or dissecting self-inflicted drama. It was just easy and natural, and I felt completely myself.
What a gift.
As we wrap up October, maybe there’s something you can do to give yourself a true break, especially before we head into the holiday season, so you can take a minute and actually hear your own thoughts. You’ll feel a million time better when you get back to your crazy busy life.
And just like we at the end of every month, today we are rounding up YOUR favorite wardrobe building pieces from the last few weeks of content. Take a look below!
1. Faux Suede Jacket, $88; 2. Tassel Necklace, $35; 3. Block Pump, $90; 4. Cardigan, $69; 5. Shell, $40; 6. Curvy Bootcut Jeans, $158; 7. Dress, $130; 8. Lace Tank, $9; 9. Drapey Tank, $25; 10. Tote, $528; 11. Earrings, $98; 12. Moto Jacket, $50
1. Faux Suede Jacket, $88 A soft and comfortable jacket that works at the office or on the weekend.
2. Tassel Necklace, $35 For our silver loving ladies, this long necklace adds drama and movement.
3. Block Pump, $90 If you love the look of a pump but need a block heel this shoe gives you both in a modern and wearable style.
4. Cardigan, $69 A long cardigan with gorgeous texture pairs with jeans or leggings for a chic travel outfit.
5. Shell, $40 The best simple shell in an array of color options, discovered by one of our loyal readers. Thanks Samantha!
6. Curvy Bootcut Jeans, $158 Hands down the best casual boot cut jeans I’ve ever worn.
7. Dress, $130 The dress to wear to any after work event so you look great even if you don’t want to be there.
8. Lace Tank, $9 An adorable, sweet tank that works perfectly under the suede jacket for $9.
9. Drapey Tank, $25 Another wearable shell to wear under jackets or cardigans.
10. Tote, $528 My favorite structured everyday bag to carry to the office.
11. Earrings, $98 Gorgeous earrings the dress up the simplest outfit.
12. Moto Jacket, $50 The most affordable way to jump on the motto jacket trend in either a soft and lovely pink or a wear forever black.